Never Feel Sorry For Trying To Live

There's this psychology that we are bound (unless by stroke of luck) to make the same mistakes in love and living like our parents showed to us.

Such truth scares me and for that reason I ask of you, look to the path before you and compare it to the path behind - to make sure you do not fall into a vicious cycle.

This sad truth falls into the poor parents are more likely to bore poor sons. Or, the love or life we chase is sometimes similar to the one we were shown and are used to growing up.

The time has come for us to take chances, reach out to fortunes we desire and never be sorry for every time you tried to improve our life and failed.

Instead, let failure be a reminder of the path behind and let the fire in the desire to be free from the path behind be to itself a fuel.

When the old talk, listen for learning not for complete emulation because how can someone who finds vision at 70 be your guide?

The only guide they have for you is, "don't wait until you are 70 to have a vision for your life."

We are told the old have wisdom on the path to follow, I dare say, they have wisdom on paths not to follow.

Wise ones, advise you based on experience of how they wasted their living being safe and not being eventful.

Foolish ones say, "look at me, don't you want to be me." I dare answer, "No, I want to discover the best thing I can be."

You can never be too old to start living, but at least never let it be said about you that, “when he was graven and old, he discovered his foolishness and became wise.”





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How I Have Chosen To Live

 

 

The environment we grow up in determines the extent we will go for pleasure and the risk we will take for having a personal pleasure story.

Life is all about having a story, life is not for living towards death.

 

You are not to spend the rest of your time on earth denying yourself all the pleasures there are because you are trying to please a society that is unaware of you.

We think to highly of ourselves sometimes, believing the world cares what we do, who we do it with and where we are.

 

We think we are so important that if we step out of “LINE” and do something the society we live in frowns on we are doomed.

 

Sorry to tell you this, you are not that important and society does not care what you do, who you are doing it with and where it is being done.

 

Never make your personal life a public fun fair, nobody needs to know what you are up to.

 

You need to make sure your life is filled with enough laughable regrets (not sorrowful regrets, there is a difference) that when you sit back and remember you smile to yourself.

Let it be that when you reminisce on your life, it will be a personal joke between you and you, stop caring what society will think, you are not that important.

 

 

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What I Believe

Nothing is set or cast in stone, we are the authors of our tomorrow.

We have the right to choose and to change our minds, we don't have to explain ourselves to you. Either you accept us for who we are or piss off.

I believe life evolved, scientific theories & facts too evolve.

You cannot be a hundred percent certain of anything. Also, if you are a one or a seven on the "Dawkins Belief Scale" then you are a liar.

We are all gifted in different ways, it will be nice if we are told which way we seem to stand taller than most because sometimes we do not know.

I most times do not care what you think on some matters, the same way I believe you care not what I think too.

Picking and choosing what I like is what religion is about.

 

Sex is for both parties to enjoy so discussing what you both like is paramount, but not as paramount to you trying them to please one another.

Whoever I choose to have sex with is my business not yours.

I believe before anyone gets married they should live together, very important.

When a relationship ends you are just at fault as the other party. Pride hides this from you.

Friends always see what you did wrong in your last relationship, but they do not want to be burdened to tell you.

You will always miss the one that got away, but that is because you are focused on the good times. Your brain is not programmed to recall the pain and sadness you felt when you were facing the trials.

I do not see anything wrong with any gender making the first move. If the receiver is not matured enough to handle that, then they are not for you.

When you meet someone you like or want to be with, do not let outside rules like age, gender, tribe, race, religion or social status be a factor. That miserable “OK PERSON” could be your happily today, biggest regret tomorrow, murderous intent the day after and the arms you call home that you never want to be without.
 
If outside rules do matter to you, then make sure your partner also accepts those rules.
 
Core values are more important to me like, parenting, spending & saving culture, ideological views, cleanliness, time-consciousness, sexual view, understanding viewpoints, communication skills, great arguer and ability to be absent when present.

There is no right person for anyone, everyone can be the right person and that is the truth.



What makes a great arguer:

• Someone who sticks to fact not feelings and is ready to accept fault when they lose on the subject matter.
• One who does not get angry and insult while talking.
• One who knows that disagreement on anything does not affect or should affect how we converse on other things.

 

If you constantly complain about your colleague’s inability to be useful to you, then you are a useless leader.

If you complain that you must do everything yourself for it to be perfect because of the above, then you are a useless teacher.

If you think you work harder than your colleagues or subordinates then you do not, you seem to have enough time on your hands to be measuring how others work.

 

Saving for the future you may never have is the best thing ever, save - you will need it for the future you never wanted.

Always live below your means, if this makes you feel bad because you don’t – then I feel worse for you.

In everything give your best, except when your best gets criticized then you don't stress.

You will always meet those people who always think they are ahead because they are smarter, do not let that get you down.

Luck is what rules the world, some have it and some don't, it is life, get over it. 

Money will change you, it is because we do not have it that we are all so humble.

Ever met those guys that talk too much and know nothing?

When someone must shout to make his point even though the point is out of this world foolish – allow him because the more you do not interrupt, the faster you will be saved from his foolish words.

 

You cannot always be yourself, don’t fool yourself that you can.

You can, when needed, stand for what you believe, don’t let anyone or yourself fool you that you can’t.

Being quiet about what you believe in the face of danger or in front of a loud mouth is not cowardice, but wisdom.



Assisted death and abortion should be an accepted thing.

When I die my body will be placed in the ground to rot. The soil will benefit from this and so will the world.

I'm not worried about what people will think of me when I'm dead, the reason is plain and simple, I'm dead... dead men don't worry.

My head houses the brain which houses me. When I die and the brain dies, the me is gone. There is no soul or spirit that is going anywhere to be judged for anything, death is the end.

For the above two reasons, there is much to live for and I will live the best way I can.

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Things I Don't Mind

I don't mind if you gather every Sunday and allow demons to be beaten out of you until you pass out, next time please record it on your phone I will love a laugh.

I don't mind if you starve yourself of food for hours or days, you should lose weight anyways a third of the world population is obese.

I don't mind if you bow with your heads to the ground five times a day. You are damned if you do and damned if you don't, so bow away.

I don't mind if you get married or not, but marrying a nine-year-old or a child not above eighteen is pedophilia.

I don't mind if you starve yourself of sex, just don’t expect me to.

I don't mind if you find the other sex attractive, I'm attracted to people of my gender… it shouldn’t bother you I’m leaving more for you to have your pick.

I don't mind if you are proud of your sex at birth, I'm proud to be me too and I prouder to be trans.

I don't mind if you give all your money to another because you think he is holy, I rather spend my money on myself thank you.

I don't mind if you deny yourself sleep to talk to yourself all night. I used to do that too, way back when my imaginary friend visits, now I will rather sleep.

I don't mind if you sing to your Lord all day, just as long as you do not mind me joining you.

I don't mind if you sing all night, just do it quietly there is no point keeping me up with you.

I don't mind if you become picky of food. I too can be picky, but not because of sin I just think seafood are yucky.

I don't mind if you become picky of whom you will call priest. I do not blame you based on the amount of molestation going on, I too will be picky.

I don't mind if you condemn another sect of yourself because you feel holier. Hey! your religion your rules.

I don't mind if you believe you are holier than me as a matter of fact I applaud you.

I don't mind that you think I'm going to your hell. Note, for me God and the Devil are the same. They are two friends chilling in the 100 acre woods with Pooh, Piglet, Tigger, Kanga and Roo.

I don't mind that you deny the wisdom of science from many books to believe in one book, just don't say things like "it is just a theory" it is clear you do not know what theory means.



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My Temple of Life

There’s fate
Whose job is to let me know when you’re down and need my presence
Even though words won’t uplift, my presence will always be found
Found silent right next to you

I still get the chills each time you look my way
My presence shrinks and I start to cave
The thoughts that send my heart racing
Are thoughts of us lying together face to face

You’re the reason I’m not dying inside
Before you there was no point to this life
You’ve added the reason to be alive
Even if that reason is to sit silently by your side

When you are reckless, I will be the brake for you
When the world turns on you, I’ll be your break from the storm
If it’s tempting, I will make the jump beside you
I’ll never let you drown alone in your tears

To Be Happy

Imagine waking up to a new reality
A reality where everything you believed in was a lie
All your sacrifices and hopes were errors on the path of living

Imagine finding out that evil is all there is
And there is no twist ending to life
Every joy you denied self was for nothing and morality is what you make it

Imagine you are let in on a secret
That what you need to be happier is a change of view
Would you deny the change needed to be happy or go for it?

Imagine discovering the above now
Will you throw away what you once believed?
Or deny the facts and still stay glued to what was, holding on to misery that was



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Imagine We Are In Hell

Imagine,

The real true religion which understood life has been raptured and life on earth is hell.

Think about it,

We struggle for everything, even then we never get what we wish for and must settle.

We are always at war, always in need plus we have an insatiable thirst for pleasure, happiness and fulfillment.

Tortured daily by the emptiness of tomorrow because we cannot see the future.

Today may be a great day, but the greatness seems like torture because right next to the minutes or hours of excitement is reality. We wish our lives are better than what it is now.

Also, if you choose one set of ideas to live by you will face criticism, if you choose another same thing.

People say don't live to please others, but if I cannot find peace in acceptance what else is there?

I tried loneliness where the point of view of others do not matter, but that was a bore.

I tried being carefree, but that also drives you towards loneliness.

Being carefree is a long way around to boredom.

Why do some people agree, there is a hell worse than this?

A place of torture for my soul when I know souls feel no pain.

The real torture is for the living, the real pain exists when you are alive.

The real hell is here.

Find those people you connect with.

In their eyes who you are does not matter, it is what you bring to their lives that does.

With them, you find that fleeting joy even though it is for a moment.

The sad thing is, these people are few and never stay around long enough for a lifetime which in its own is another torture.

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If I'm Bisexual, What is Wrong With That?

I met a lady who was interested in discussing sexuality and was acceptable of someone being gay (which is a big deal here in Africa). It is hard to find people like that, but the flip side was she was not acceptable to why someone will be bisexual. For her being bisexual is being greedy and wanting the best of both worlds.

The conversation changed from sexuality to grouping people based on your idea, drawing a line and saying people on this side are this and those on the other side are that.

Life draws no lines, and it is impossible to group certain sect of people into known groups. The LGBTQ community has the “Q” (Queer/Questioning) as an umbrella term to cover those who are unsure or would rather not be grouped or tagged by a sexual orientation.

Being intellects does not give us the right to dictate to others who they are and where they fit. We are more than just pieces of a puzzle because a puzzle has a certain goal where every piece must be in the right spot to get to that goal. But in life, every piece has its own goal, and it doesn't need every single member of the home race or every member of its group sect to make itself a masterpiece.

We need to be open-minded to the world and the different possibilities that are out there.

I for one accept, “I'm not set on anything, I know nothing about anything and what I do know are ideas which are subject to criticism and change.”

We have to be open-minded to everything and never concluding on a matter without evidence, just because you think it is so, does not make it so.

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